Thursday, February 4, 2010

Who is edumacating our children?

Last night was the first Young Men/Young Women combined activity since I discovered that almost all the youth in our ward are members of the VL club.

(virgin lips)

Being that it's Valentines--tis the season--I rallied for Truth or Dare and Spin the Bottle, but the bishopric said, "Uhhh, let us think about it . . . NOPE!" 

So we did a DaNcE pArTaY instead.

It was a pimped out dance party because my bro let us use his DJ sound system and his DJ strobe light and his DJ fog machine.

We hit the lights and then we hit the floor.

We did the limbo and the cha cha slide and the electric slide and the boot scootin' boogie and the hoedown throwdown and the chicken dance .

Then we did Thriller and High School Musical and the YMCA.

Then we did the macarena and the hamster dance and hokey pokey.

The only thing we didn't do was kissing.

Not even a peck.

Even my hub abstained.

"But we have to set the example," I told him.

"You're right," he said. "When you stop getting pulled over, I'll stop abstaining from you in public."

(Party pooper!)

I don't know what has gone on while I've been in Hawaii having babies but not only are the youth in the VL club, they also don't understand the concept of partner dancing. 

They think partner dancing is for slow songs only and cannot wrap their brains around the idea that they can ask someone to dance on the fast songs too. In other words, dancing is now like dating, it's done in large groups, and then when a slow song comes on they scatter into the hallways to avoid coming in contact with a member of the opposite s.e.x.

No wonder the divorce rate is so darn high!

Who is edumacating our children, anyway? 

I hope it's not the same person who let my kids to do this at the dance party:


*MARY* said...

Gone are the days of great role models like Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera.
Kids these days look up to punks like Susan Boyle; she's like in her fifties and still in the VL club.

Barney Lund said...

Amen! And kids don't even have to follow the proximity rule of keeping a "Book of Mormon between you" because everything is digital these days. I don't know what these kids are thinking. :)

Barney Lund said...

Sorry. This is Mary

springrose said...

I know your daughter is the oldest but HOW TALL IS SHE?? That video makes them, especially her, look so tall! They must feel very comfortable in your new ward to do something like that!! Looks like it was fun!

The Garden of Egan said...

I have high hopes that you will be able to teach these VL's true values and virtues of lots of PDA!
If your hubby isn't going to help you, go borrow one.

Shantel said...

I laughed and laughed. That was awesome.

Kelly said...

I found your blog through ladyblogs and I love it! I am totally now a follower :)


Homer and Queen said...

I am so with you on that one! What happen to the good old days of being a trampy teenager?

I am Lorinda W- you can call me LoW said...

The anwser to your question is on the video, my dear. :)

DeNae said...

I wish it had been cool to group dance when I was a kid. And I was TOTALLY a member of the VL club. Heck, I was their queen.

None of it was by choice, but that is COMPLETELY beside the point.

IWA (e - va) said...

So fun!

I bet if my leaders were as cool as you, we would've had VL too!

LiafromLaie said...

I thought Divorce rates were up because most Americans want to live on Wisteria Lane... not me... I am soundly in the camp that admires and looks up to gals like Susan Boyle :D

Totally loved that video! I mean not only are they dancing but they had props!

Dolly said...


Not only are your youth not kissing and partner dancing..... They are also wearing street clothes. Something is really amiss.

Where are the skirts to the knees and the white shirts and ties?

I was told not too very long ago at the Laie Stake Center that the youth dress code for all dances WORLDWIDE are the same. No one will be permitted to enter a church dance in regular clothes AND we should know better. After all these boys have the priesthood so they KNOW.

So I asked him where he lives, and he said, "right here, all my life." And I said "Oh, well I am visiting here from Saudi Arabia and I've lived in a few other countries also. And this is not a worldwide dress code for all dances. But I respect that it's yours and I'm not trying to change your mind about letting the boys in. I just want you to understand our motive and not try to shame us for showing up with our good intentions." And he said, "this is a priesthood matter" and turned his back to me. And I said, "excuse me, that's rude and please don't talk about the priesthood like that. This is about parenting, and good intentions and boys honoring their mother and going to a dance they didn't even want to go to because they would rather play computer games. As a mother I just wanted to encourage good social skills for my boys and their friends."

And he said, "you can leave now." So I put my hands on my hips and said, "make me".....

Well, enough of this story. It gets better but it's probably also TMI. I just couldn't help myself when I saw these teenagers dancing and not wearing Sunday best. It brought it all flooding back to me.

It did not end pretty.

Dolly said...

Just wanted to come back and give a big high five to all of the VL clubbers.

My last comment was a bit of a downer, so hands up and virtual high fives to the evolutionary social reform of our youth. Must be all that facebooking and texting and blogging that keeps kids from sneaking off behind bleachers to kiss.

All you have to do is type xxoo and you're affections are fulfilled.

The Crash Test Dummy said...

Oh Dolly, I'm so glad I didn't know about the church policy that young people cannot dance unless they are in shirts and ties. I'm quite sure I won't be the YW Prez for long, but hopefully I will go down screaming CHILLAX!

Hey, where are you? How's the house hunt gong? When do you leave? How can we see you? You need a jacket!

Sorry I've been out of touch. I've been helping my mom move and clean.

Sandi said...

Oh Dolly's comment just wants ya want to smack someone upside the head huh? We did away with that dress code some years ago-and kids are finally starting to come back to the the dances. I was "lucky" enough to be a chaperon last month and I was also surprised at all the group dancing going on- kinda weird. Also weird how they just kind of stand wherever they are and dance- no real dance floor. I gotta tell ya, those stake dances in the 80's were soooo much better! And just so you know, I am a firm believe that this VL trend is going to backfire. Don't know how, don't know when, but there will be repercussions. haha. Ain't nothing wrong with a little smooching now and then. That's what she said.

April said...

Oh Dolly, if that man was speaking disrespectfully to you then he was not honoring his priesthood. I just had a run in with someone over speaking disrespectfully to me in front of the YW. I called him out on it in front of his friends and he didn't like it. But, I wasn't going to allow that in front of the YW. The need to know that they should not allow someone to talk to them in the manner that was taking place in my situation. Respect is so important. VL club is overkill. The YM & YW will just roll their eyes because there is so much more going on. They will look at their leaders like we are out of touch. We need to know what is going on and not minimize their temptations. VL club is the least of their worries! That's what she said. :)

Martha said...

Funny video. We miss those guys breaking it down in the living room. They sure have the moves and the skinny legs. My kids are downstairs right now watching the video.

Just remember folks using words and speaking disrespectfully is a little better than using your fists.

Don't know if I should publish this.... what the heck...

A few weeks ago while we were in RS mtg. there was a problem in the sacrament meeting of the ward that meets just after us. We'll just say that there were several punches thrown and a lot of blood.

Apparently a guy had asked another guy if he could scoot down a little so the missionaries could sit down. The guy left mad, then came back in a few mins later and punched the guy who asked. Which ended up in a bunch of guys punching and others holding them back. Yes, this was in the middle of sacrament meeting.

So Dolly is lucky she came off easy that night.

The Crash Test Dummy said...

Martha, NO WAY! Are you serious? For some reason that story makes me laugh. Am I morbid? That's the craziest thing I've heard of in Sacrament meeting. ;) Definitely would spice church up a bit. haha

Lauging at Both Sandi and April for using "That's what she said" so creatively.

To clear up the mystery of the tall daughter, I found these awesome platform shoes at D.I. I should post a photo. She IS tall, but not THAT tall.

Mary, so happy to see you again!

And Kelly, WELCOME!

Martha said...

It's totally true. It was all in the back of the chapel and their bishop had to get up and tell them to get out of there. A guy from our bishopric was in the hall and saw the chapel doors bust open and all these guys coming out with blood all over their shirts and faces. I'll give you one guess which ward it was.

Dolly said...

Martha! Thanks for publishing your bloody fight story during sacrament meeting. Makes me feel soooo much better about how mine ended. (With our Bishop taking the boys in there himself, me going to the car to wait-- it was only the last 15 minutes of the dance anyway. The "bouncer" got so mad that he got bypassed by the Bishop, found me in my car and called me out and told me what a bad mother I was.

April, this is when I did tell him he was not honoring his priesthood and something about unrighteous dominion.. Anyway the Bishop finally had to break it up and say let it go, for now. But I did it for the same reason you stated... to show the boys that when things are wrong, you don't need to be quiet about it and that I would defend them and myself from abusive behavior.

Sandi, thanks for the additional evidence. I am feeling better about the whole thing, because I questioned myself... if I should take the high road and not get into a fight but rather try to explain it to the boys later. But they would have tuned out to my explanation. Now they will remember it!

But now you have me all intrigued about the VL club and backfires. My soon to be 17 year old has never been on a date or even thinks about it. Luckily we busted our 15 year old kissing a girl back when he was still 13.

We might be moving to Utah if my husband gets a job that he just interviewed for. I think that will unleash a whole new level of possibilities for the boys. Hopefully in all the good ways.