Having your ILs as your constant companions for 6 weeks really isn't that bad if you have a crank radio, plenty of spray whipped cream and learn to transcend yourself.
Transcending yourself is the only way to be go. I realize that now. And so several days ago I deemed this official Share the Love Sweet Love week on my blog, with a save-Tamn's-soul surprise party to kick off the heart-to-heart fest.
But it's been a strange and mysterious week since I decided to begin the perilous path toward love. My bedroom mirror fell from the wall, but it didn't break.
I was tazered by my microwave, but it warmed up my leftover ham and potato casserole anyway.
On New Years a bizarre firework went up somewhere in the community so exceedingly high that everyone turned and gasped. It didn't burst into a million glittery lights, just one orange beam that began descending in slow motion. As it moved through the sky it turned and glided down, down, down straight towards . . . ME! Of course. I stared it down fearlessly, and POOF, it burned out just before it melted my face off.
The a few nights ago, my husband and I went to see Australia. Just as the movie began, the emergency fire alarm went off. We all began filing out of the theater.
It was a FALSE ALARM!!!! Shuffle, shuffle, shuffle.
Three more times it cried wolf during the movie. And then I finally got it! The universe is trying to tell me something. Don't be afeared of false fire. False fire can annoy you, but it can't burn you.
What an empowering revelation. Especially during such a beautiful, powerful movie that opened the faucets behind my eyes.
How often do we let the false fire discourage us and keep us from finding our voice and saying what we need to say. Or from telling our story, or reaching our dreams or recognizing the genuine charms in our life. Like our children. Our spouse. Our parents. Our family. Our friends, and YES even our ILs, (bless their hearts).
I've watched three fabulous movies in the past three days, Australia, Benjamin Button and Kung Fu Panda. Let's just say that many tears were shed, insomuch that I knew not where to wipe the contents of my eyes (and nose). And much wisdom was imparted, insomuch that I feel as if I've had a weekend retreat with Yoda.
Allow me to share the wisdom:
1. We are too concerned with what was and what will be. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why they call it the present.
2. One often meets his destiny on the path he takes to avoid it.
3. There is just news; no good news or bad news.
4. We must let go of the illusion that we have control.
5. There is no secret ingredient. YOU are the secret ingredient.
6. I'm not dying, you idiot.
7. You never know what's coming for you.
8. Send a postcard from everywhere.
9. When it comes to the end, you've got to let things go.
10. Just because something IS, doesn't mean it SHOULD BE.
11. In the end, all we take with us is our story.
12. If we don't have love we don't have anything, not even a story.
13. Somewhere over the rainbow dreams really do come true.
14. You can sing your loved ones to you.
I loved Kung Fu Panda, of course, but that's old news so I'll skip ahead.
I loved Benjamin Button. It was charming. Genuinely charming. The story, the lessons and Brad Pitt were all fantastic.
I LOVED Australia. It was a magical journey. Just like life. The journey was taken by a displaced group of misfits, who became a family because they grew love for each other. They protected each other against the antagonist. They fought side by side against the opposing force. There was courage and grief and dreams and fear and a harmonica and The Wizard of Oz.
But most importantly love sweet love.
The protagnist's name was Drover. I thought to myself, everyone needs a Drover. Someone who cares enough to save them.
But if you don't have a Drover, you'll just have to BE the Drover.
Love is a dangerous, perilous path. It's a win/lose. You WILL win, but you WILL lose. I know this because I'm a pessimist. Which means I'm a disillisioned optimist. Which means I've lost and I've been hurt, and who needs love anyway.
But deep down I know that all you need is love (and Code Red Mountain Dew).
My most favoritist line in the movie was "I'll sing you to me!"
It reminded me of August Rush and the idea that there is a language of love heard only by the ears of the believers in it, that leads and guides us and helps us find each other. Again. If we listen.
We have to listen!!!!!!
And we have to sing!!!!!